Over-thinking
Unhelpful Thinking Styles (6) You’d be surprised how many people I come across who say that they ‘over-think’ things. It seems to be a common problem – and causes a great deal of anxiety. The old saying ‘making mountains out of molehills’ is very apt here and takes a manageable situation and turns it into […]
Sunshine and Depression
Sunshine and Depression Whilst I’ve been writing a series of blogs on unhelpful thinking styles, which I will continue on with next time, I thought I’d write about something a little different this week, bearing in mind the weather we’re currently enjoying. The sun is shining and I personally find that everything looks so much […]
Emotional Reasoning
Unhelpful Thinking Styles (5) In my latest blog about unhelpful thinking I’ve decided to talk about emotional reasoning – this is where you let how you think about things be guided by how you feel about things – ‘I feel bad so it must be bad’, ‘I feel worried therefore it’s definitely a problem.’ It’s […]
Shoulds and Musts
Unhelpful Thinking Styles (4) Another aspect to being critical and hard on ourselves is the unhelpful thinking style of ‘shoulds and musts’. When we tell ourselves that we ‘should be doing ….’ Or ‘I shouldn’t do…..’ or ‘I must…’ it can put unrealistic pressure on ourselves. The conscientious student who believes that they must achieve […]
Mind-reading
Unhelpful Thinking Styles (3) In my 3rd blog about unhelpful thinking styles I’ve decided to look at mind-reading as this can often follow on from comparing ourselves with others. What I mean by mind-reading is that we tend to assume we know what others are thinking about us. For example ‘I bet he doesn’t like […]
Comparisons
Unhelpful Thinking Habits (2) So, in my 2nd instalment of the series on unhelpful thinking habits, I thought I’d address another error that links with being too critical of ourselves, which is comparing ourselves with others. How often do you take a look at other people around you and think that they’re better looking, have […]
The inner self critic
Unhelpful thinking habits (1) Have you recognised recently just how you think? Would you say you’re an Optimist? Pessimist? Or perhaps somewhere in the middle – a Realist? Also – what do you think about yourself? – are you kind to yourself or are you regularly putting yourself down? I find that many of the […]
Some advice for a better nights sleep
10 Tips For Better Sleep As I’m sure you may be aware, getting a poor night’s sleep is an unpleasant experience and can cause tiredness and a lower mood the next day. Whilst one or two night’s disturbed sleep is unlikely to have too much impact upon us, if sleep deprivation continues it can cause […]
Learning about self care
Taking care of ourselves Taking care of ourselves sounds like common sense but is something that we can quite often forget to do. This might be for many reasons such as the pressures of everyday life – the demands of work, family, housework, study, caring for dependents etc. or it can be because we’re feeling […]
Is It Just Me?
I wonder if you’ve ever looked around you and thought ‘why is my life so bad compared with everyone else?’ ‘Why does everyone else appear to be fine, happy and enjoying life, whereas I’m feeling low, and everything’s going wrong?’ We can take a look at all the fun pictures of what people are up […]